What are Munches about?
Munches are primarily a space to get known and to meet people in your local community, as well as find out about events.
They take place discretely all around the country (and the world), and are not difficult to find. For more information on munches, see the FAQ below
Meet the community
- Find people with your interests
- Find out who the community 'leaders'/facilitators are
- Become known by the community so you can come to parties
- Have good chats
Dunedin Munches
The Dunedin Kink community run two munches a month.
For more information on how to attend these events, contact the Dunedin Munch Group on fetlife, or you can contact me through the “Get In Touch” button at the bottom of this page
FAQ
What happens at munches?
People talk with each other and socialize outside of the party/kink atmosphere that might be present at other events.
It is an opportunity for new people to meet their peers in the community, and find out who they should talk to about things that interest them.
It is also an opportunity to demonstrate that they are a safe person to be in the community; often it is a requirement that you attend at least one munch before you will be allowed to attend any community events. This ensures that people who go to events can feel safe that everyone else will already be known by the organizers or the community at large.
What do i wear?
Plain clothes, your everyday wear.
Munches are events held in a public venue, not a ‘party space’. This is to make sure that everyone (especially new people) will feel as comfortable as possible walking into the group.
You wont see people in kink dress or fetish wear at these events
I'm nervous about going by myself.
It’s best to contact the organizers; often they will be more than happy to meet with you 1-on-1 (or 2-on-1 if you want to go with a friend) a little bit before the munch starts if you’re feeling nervous about going.
If you’re still not sure about attending you’ll often be able to meet them in a neutral public space some time during the week. This will allow you to discuss the community, ask questions, and have a familiar face to seek out when you do come to the munch.
What's the cost of entry to a munch?
Munches are free to attend.
I'm nervous about people knowing my name
Often people in the kink community will go by a fake name (often called a “scene name”) at kink community events, including munches.
Decide on what you might want your scene name to be before you go to your first munch. Don’t stress about this too much; you can always change it later or ask others for ideas. You also don’t need to use your scene name if you prefer to just use your real name.
What if someone recognizes me?
If you walk into a munch and see someone you recognize, it is usually the case that they will be as surprised to see you there, as you are to see them. They wouldn’t want you telling others about them being at the munch any more than you want them telling others about you.
If you see someone at the munch it’s basic etiquette that they will wait for you to introduce yourself to them with the name you wish to use. This will let them know if you would prefer them to use your scene name.
Importantly, if you recognize someone, don’t greet them by blurting out an enthusiastic “omg hi Jarrod! I haven’t seen you since I was in your class in high-school!”; you are as responsible for looking after others right to privacy as others are for looking out for yours. Wait until someone introduces themselves to you, so you know what name they wish to be addressed by.
Curious about Munches?
We would love to have you join us, if you want a contact you can talk with before you come along to a munch, feel free to get in touch with me.
I’m always happy to answer any questions about Munches, kink scenes, rope, etc.